How to Win Friends and Influence People

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Six Ways to Make People Like you. If you want people to like you.........

Rule 1: Become Genuinely interested in other people. 

To become genuinely interested in other people I believe means that when you make a friend do not just be friends with them because you want to seem cool that you hangout with them. If you are going to be friends with someone then you have to understand them, you have to have things in common with them. You have to know how to keep a conversation going, you have to be able to listen to them without getting bored.

"The more one does and sees and feels, the more one is able to do, and the more genuine may be one's appreciation of fundamental things like home, and love, and understanding companionship." Amelia Earheart 

Rule 2: Smile 

To smile is a good thing. Smiling at someone can make you seem a 100x more nice. Some people don't make any friends because they never smile. Friends often say "when I first met you i was afraid of talking to you because you had a mean face on" imagine how many people have not came up to talk you just because of that. How many possible friends you have lost just because you do not smile. Facts are that smiling is contagious, smiling gets you promoted meaning it makes you 100x more attractive, it makes it seem easier for other people to approach you. Not only does smiling make it easier for other people but it is known that if you force yourself to smile when you're sad you can elevate your mood.
"A smile is the light in your window that tells others that there is a caring, sharing person inside." Denis Waitley
Rule #3 Remember Names: 

To remember names is a good thing. People will sometimes be surprised if you remember their names. If you remember names people will know that you were actually listening to them and that you had an interest in them. Knowing a persons name can change the way someone feels about you. Lots of people have a hard time remembering names but don't sweat it.
A few exercises you can practice to help remember names are:
1) Focus on the other person
2) Trust Yourself 
3)Create an image associated with the person

and lastly if you happen to forget a name don't worry about it just say “I am so sorry, I know we have met, but I seem to have forgotten your name.”

Rule #4 Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
Being a good listener can make you a great person. People will start to notice that you are hooked to the conversation and that will make you 100x more attractive. Once you encourage others they will also start to notice that you are a supportive friend. They will also start to support you, supportive friends are the best because they support in the good and the bad, But supportive also know when to say that something you are about to do is not good.
"Instead of being critical of people in authority over you and envious of their position, be happy you're not responsible for everything they have to do. Instead of piling on complaints, thank them for what they do. Overwhelm them with encouragement and appreciation!" Joyce Meyer
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."


    People will always have something in which they really

love. Something in which they really care about.

Rule #5 Talk in Terms of the other man's interest.
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."

    People will always have something in which they really love. Something in which they really care about. So if people try to talk about there favorite thing let them talk about it. Have respect for what other people have to say, because when its your turn to talk they will have respect for you. The other person will also see that you are interested in what they have to say and that will make you more attractive.

Rule #6 Make the other person  feel important-and do it sincerely
To me this means to be genuinely interested in a person. If you really do find interest in them then show it and make them feel important. If you do not find interest in them then don't be mean about it and don't lie and tell them things they want to hear just to hear it. Try to be as kind as possible. Making people feel important is a good thing because it makes the other person feel as if someone really cares, and it makes them feel like they matter. The quote below shows that making others feel important is good because if you are truly their friend then that is what you are supposed to do make them feel important.
"Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself - and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is."Jim Morrison
Reflection: These six different tips can help you make friends. They not only help you make friends but also help you keep your current friends. To me this just made me realize that not only do other people use these ways but I also do but I had never realized till now that they are put into words in front of me. These six ways can not only help you make friends but they can also help you land jobs, get special opportunities given to you because of way you act with others. These six ways can also help you make feel good about yourself, they night make you seem more confident, they can make you a good person, a good friend. One of the rules is to smile more not only will this make people like you but it will make you feel better.